Source: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Ijs5XyMTro
2010-08-20公視晚間新聞(涉虐2歲女童致死 未成年媽媽收押)
When it comes to the issue of teen marriage, many people hold opinion against it because they doubt that if teen couples or maybe teen parents have the ability to make enough money to support their own family, and that if their mind is mature enough to complete a home. “In Taitung county, the method of a young mom to discipline her 2-year-old daughter is to grab her kid’s head to hit against the wall. The next day, unfortunately, the poor little girl died.” The mom is just 19 years old. She gave birth to her daughter at the age of 17. Although she is at such a young age, she has already had two marriages and 3 children. Their home’s economic situation has been bad for a long time. Her husband is a worker, and most of his time, he doesn’t live with her and his kid.
The news is just an epitome of many tragedies that usually happen in the corner of our society. People get married so early that they don’t even have economic base to raise the family. Thus, miserable consequences appear. Many employers don’t hire underage people. Even part-time jobs require people need to be at least 18 years old. So it is very hard for underage people to get stable works. Under this kind plight, many of them can only earn very little amount of money, or rely on their parents. Some worse cases choose to rob people. If young couples live in this way over a long period of time, they must feel a lot of pressure and their emotion must be bad and down. Arguments and conflicts, then, take place the love they once had. Relationship between husband and wife will deteriorate and thus end up in divorce.
When children are involved, things will go more complicated. First, parents may be too busy doing odd jobs to teach their kids. They may go astray in the future and form a vicious circulation. Second, parents may vent their stress and anger on them. They mind are not mature enough to handle their emotions. When they cannot control their feelings, domestic violence happens. If things go worse, a young life may be sacrifice for his or her parents’ impulse. Last, if parents end up in divorce, it will influence children a lot, too. Who should raise a kid in the condition that both of them don’t have the ability? Who can pay good attention on a kid he or she needs to make money and take of the home alone at the same time?
Underage couples have many difficult problems to deal with. In general, people are reluctant to give them a chance to have a job on account of their immature thinking, irresponsible behaviors and maybe low education. Without a stable salary, it is extremely hard to maintain a marriage. Delaying the marriageable age can give young people more time to think twice if they are really ready to get married instead of just from an impulse.
I don't agree to the point that people do not give work to teen parents. Maybe it is because teens do not have a higher level of education and would have to stick with lower paid labor work. Before having children, it would be best to evaluate whether we have the ability to raise them, teenage parent or not. The paragraph you wrote about parent-child relationship is similar to mine. Maybe we can disccuss it togther.
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ReplyDeleteHere you said that ''people are reluctant to give them a chance to have a job on account of their immature thinking, irresponsible behaviors and maybe low education.'' What are the irresponsible behaviors here means? Is that a kind of disdain to teen parents? I think you may means that people do not want to offer a job to teen parents are because they think that their decision to get married underage is a kind of irresponsible behaviors. On the contrary, will people offer jobs to teens if they were also in low education and were not mature enough? If not, then this is a problem concern with age. If will, it will be a problem concern with the disdain toward teen marriage.
ReplyDeleteThe problems which you mentioned in your article, I think some parts of it may also happen in poor family, not only in teen-age family. Maybe many teenagers do not have enough money to raise their babies, but the problems on their ecnomic situation will be more than enviroment but also their own will.
ReplyDeleteIn this annotation, I think you are talking about two crucial elements against the teenage marriage. The economic situation and the children will make the condition become more complicated. I do agree with your idea against the teenage marriage. However, you say that delaying the marriageable age can avoid this problem. I am not quite sure about it. Because if the young couple want to stay together with each other, I think they will not really care about how the law regulate them.
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